Parenting Practices of Different Cultures: Parenting practice of Sabah and Sarawak

Parenting practice of Sabah and Sarawak

Discipline

In Sabah and Sarawak, the natives have their own distinct traditions and cultures which equally places the utmost importance of paying respect to the elders, parents, siblings, relatives, friends and visitors both domestic and from abroad as well as in other culture. (Hajji Zainol Abideen,2009). In those days, a family will follow decisions which made by fathers when involving and interacting with children. Fathers will set rules for their children such as how to behave when greet people but these rules had change. Nowadays, a mother will do everything including decision that involving and interacting with children. Father will follow mother’s instruction but in Sabah and Sarawak, father and mother have equal responsibility of childcare.( Wider,2014) . Now all the culture also follows these rules. Discipline will change to become stricter than before. Mother will make sure children must reach home before 10pm. In addition, mother will cane their children if their children been naughty. But for Sabah and Sarawak, parents will be not as strict as parents in urban country because the lifestyles they live are different.( Krishnan,2012)

Education

Children in Sabah and Sarawak are often separated from their parents from as young as seven to attend school in a nearby village. By the time they are 13, they would be living miles away in town for their secondary education. Some parents of aboriginal people in Sabah and Sarawak will send their children to school to give their teacher to educate them because they do not know how to write or read and they do not want their children to follow their steps due to today’s world.( Griffin,2002). In addition, other than holidays, they may never return to live with their parents in the village again. This was posed a serious challenge for children to leave the house at the early age. They will live in a boarding school and only went home once a year. This can make them to cope and they were also fortunate social problems. Some children do not want to go to school because of the distance of school and their home and they do not want to interact with other children. (Hong, 2013)

Goals

Every parent wants to see their children success especially in their studies so that they will have a better life in future. The major goals were to examine gender of parent and gender of child differences in involvement in childcare activities. Normally parents will set goals for their children such as study hard, stay healthy and so on. ( The State of the World’s Children,2011)

Socialization

Usually parents of a young man arrange a marriage with the parents of a young woman. For a Muslim in Malay culture, the spouse must also be Muslim; thus, individuals, especially men, often convert to Islam in order to marry a Muslim. Interethnic group marriages are not uncommon. There is considerable minor variation in marriage ceremonies from group to group and within ethnic groups. ( Maxwell,1998)